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Infatuation pushes logic aside and has you act through your emotions. You are basically drunk with emotion and the neediness to find someone leads you to make poor judgments. Too many times we see people jump in new relationships and then they get extremely disappointed. This hot and cold pattern ultimately leads to bitterness and feeling resigned that “no one is out there.”

If you no longer wish to be fooled by the faux-mate trap, you need to understand the cause of your love attraction so you can be more conscious in your dating life and find your true partner. Chemistry is not love, especially when it is not conscious and driven by your default emotional patterns.

Robert and I teach Jung’s work on the anima/animus, which we call the Inner Adam® or Inner Eve™. In short, it is how we see the opposite sex in romantic relationships. What we are really seeing in the other person is a part of us, all the parts that are amazing but we haven’t accepted about ourselves. We believe they carry all these wonderful traits and we aren’t really seeing the real person at all. You are being fooled by your own projection.

Since you don’t accept all the wonderful qualities of yourself, including your own divine nature, you can only see it through your projection onto another person. You believe that they hold the magic and power and you need them in your life in order to feel good about yourself. What is really happening is that you are falling in love with you and that poor person is just a paper cut-out holding the image temporarily.

This is a very powerful projection that sometimes keeps people hung up on an ex and it isn’t rational or real love at all. This is the source of all those romance novels, movies, fairy tales and ancient myths of love.

Then, without fail, all of the things you don’t like about yourself eventually project on to this person. So, either you get turned off by them because you start seeing your insecurities through them or they leave because your insecurities will start seeing them not giving you enough attention or being available to you. You fall out of love with you.

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